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Hello everybody.

I am back to give you more advice on how to meet Japanese women successfully.

First, you need to understand that women in their early 20’s a different than those in their mid and late 20’s. This is not just a sense of style or difference in musical taste, etc. The younger generation of women in Japan are looking for different things. This is probably the way the future of Japanese women will be.

First off, Japanese women want you to have money. Japanese women younger than me would much rather have a rich boyfriend that was ugly than a handsome boyfriend that did not have much money. So, it’s important to show that you have the potential to earn money.

Next, the younger generation is nervous that you are playboys. They want some confirmation that you aren’t just looking for any woman. Many times a younger women will reject your invitation for a date. Not because she is not interested in you, but she wants to make sure you are only interested in her. Try to ask her again at a later time. But make sure you are not too forceful. Ask her if she wants to go to dinner or coffee. There is a good chance she will say yes after a few tries.

The last piece of advice I would like to give you is how to express your emotions to Japanese womens. We are too shy to hear “I love you,” many times. We prefer that you show emotions in a physical way. This is not sexual. We like to have hand held or give us a hug when we are depressed. Some Japanese women like for you to pat the head to cheer us up.

I hope this advice helps in meeting and successfully dating the Japanese woman of your dreams!

Let’s say you’ve just arrived in Japan and you’re having trouble meeting women. How do you attract Japanese women? Are their certain customs you’re not aware of? Is it the language barrier?

The best way to attract Japanese women is the same way that department stores, clothing stores, etc. attract Japanese women. BRANDING.

You have to pick a style and stick with it. Not just jeans and a sweatshirt like you wear back home either! You need to be “Oshare” as they say in Japanese, or “Stylish.” Not too much though. There is always the risk of looking “too” Japanese. That should be avoided above all else. Wear some hip clothes, but also accent your “foreign-ness.”

Cleanliness is also a big factor. Japanese women like clean men. Clean-shaven, well-groomed hair, etc.

For a lot of Japanese women, dating a foreign guy is a way to show off her status. You are partially an accessory to whatever outfit she is wearing that day.

Of course, you can’t change your appearance too much. That is to say you can’t change your eye color, etc. (sans elective surgery.) However, if you feel like going the extra step, dying your hair blonde and putting in blue contacts will really attract Japanese women.

The final piece is money. Japanese women above most other things, want you to have money, and want you to buy her things with that money. Eventually, want you to take care of them financially (in the long-term.)

Some of these things you cannot change about yourself. However, it is best to be aware of what Japanese women are into and prepare yourself for hunting that beautiful Japanese girl you’ve always wanted to date.

So guys, how do you start up a conversation with Japanese girls? I hope for your sake it’s not straight on face to face. By this I mean, I hope you are not directly facing eachother.

Guys and girls have different ways of thinking about space. Japanese girls especially are shy and it is better to avoid direct interaction at first.

Men have a objective and move straight for it. Sometimes even ignoring other important things and only moving towards their goals. Women are different, especially Japanese women. Even if a guy falls from the sky right in front of us, we’d still think, “There are better guys to come.”

We’re patient.

So as guys move forward and feel some kind of connection before we Japanese women do. If you get to close to us right away, we’ll only pull back.

What’s the best solution then? You need to approach from the side.

The best way to do this is to get us in a setting that requires communication in such a manner. At a bar or restaurant are perfect. Try to appeal to us in from the side.
It is said that men look best from an angle rather than straight-on anyway. Have you heard that before?

If you do happen to be forced to talk face to face, adjust your chair or turn slightly so you are at a 45 degree angle. I know it sounds silly, but it really does help.

It’s not just the direction from which you approach or the angle you set yourself at either, the tone and volume of your voice is very important.

We respond to a more relaxed tone. Don’t be too excited. Show us how adult you are. You might think that is too reserved, but that is what gets us. It’s almost like fishing, leave the bait out there and relax. The trick is to get the women to respond to you and move in closer on their own.

And don’t forget! Keep the converstation going with questions about her. Make her the focus, and show your best side, and I’m sure things will go well for you!

The reality is that most women here who like foreign men do so simply for the reason that they are foreign men. It’s considered very cool to go out with foreign men; foreign men are considered very “kakkoi”, and many women are attracted to them for this reason. The first thing therefore that you have to be careful of is not becoming somebody’s plaything or status symbol. Many women who you meet who take an immediate liking are more interested and excited by what you are, rather than who you are.

You could be her boytoy, her cool gaijin boyfriend; she’ll show you off to all around her. She doesn’t really care what you have to say, and doesn’t really care about you. You’re almost a fashion accessory. These sorts of relationships tend not to last all that long. If you’re fine with the arrangement then go for it, but if you’re looking for something more serious (whether consciously or unconsciously), be careful not to get too attached to somebody who doesn’t care about you quite as deeply as she may make out.

Many, many men fall into this trap, and it’s sad to see them hurt.

Likewise, try not to get big-headed. A lot of foreign men start to believe that they are special, just because they are superficially treated as such. You may be treated like some sort of celebrity, but do try to remember that you’re not one. People’s excitement and interest in you is not as deep as it may appear.

I don’t wish to sound too melancholy. Of course feel free to go and have fun. There is no doubt lots of fun to be had. All I’m saying is that you should be aware that it often looks like a Japanese girl cares about you more than she truly does, so if you feel yourself becoming more attached, just keep your feet on the ground, and keep everything in mind, or it’s easy to get hurt.

All the best.

A couple of important tips for you again today. The first is something I’d really recommend doing, the second, something I’d really recommend not doing.

Firstly, surprises. Most people know already that girls love surprises, but Japanese girls especially. One problem many Japanese girls have with Japanese guys is that they’re often quite cold and boring. They’re not all that romantic either. Surprising a girl with a bouquet of nice flowers will always go down very well.

Another good one is to surprise her by buying her something she’s mentioned. Often a girl will be reading a magazine, or shopping and will say “wow isn’t that nice”. You can generally tell when it’s something she’s genuinely wanting. If you suddenly present her with it one day, the surprise will delight her. It doesn’t have to be super expensive, but it shows that you’ve made an effort, and that’s what girls really care about. Going to a lot of effort to spring a nice surprise on a girl is not something many guys do very often… mainly because they can’t be bothered… which is exactly why it’s such a good thing to do, as it shows you have been bothered, and do care about her. Believe me, it’s a great way to her heart.

The second thing is not paying attention. Always pay attention and look like you care about what she is saying. Girls get extremely disappointed if they are excited about something and want to tell you, and are met with indifference. For example, you’re sitting at home after a long hard day, and you’re relaxing by reading the paper, your girlfriend comes up to you “ne ne” (you know how girls do when they want to tell you something), and you look up at her with your same flat expression and an unenthusiastic “mmm?”, she will not be particularly suited. Even if you are tired, make the effort to look at her with a “yes?” and raised eyebrows.

You want to invite her to talk to you, not look at her as a nuisance. When she’s telling you about things, maybe her work or something, often you won’t be very interested. But act as if you are. If it is important to her, make sure you look like it is important to you, because that tells her that she is important to you. Do not continue reading your paper or watching TV or whatever it is you may be doing. Look at her and give her your attention… look like you’re interested in what she has to say… irrelevant of whether you are or not!