A couple of important tips for you again today. The first is something I’d really recommend doing, the second, something I’d really recommend not doing.

Firstly, surprises. Most people know already that girls love surprises, but Japanese girls especially. One problem many Japanese girls have with Japanese guys is that they’re often quite cold and boring. They’re not all that romantic either. Surprising a girl with a bouquet of nice flowers will always go down very well.

Another good one is to surprise her by buying her something she’s mentioned. Often a girl will be reading a magazine, or shopping and will say “wow isn’t that nice”. You can generally tell when it’s something she’s genuinely wanting. If you suddenly present her with it one day, the surprise will delight her. It doesn’t have to be super expensive, but it shows that you’ve made an effort, and that’s what girls really care about. Going to a lot of effort to spring a nice surprise on a girl is not something many guys do very often… mainly because they can’t be bothered… which is exactly why it’s such a good thing to do, as it shows you have been bothered, and do care about her. Believe me, it’s a great way to her heart.

The second thing is not paying attention. Always pay attention and look like you care about what she is saying. Girls get extremely disappointed if they are excited about something and want to tell you, and are met with indifference. For example, you’re sitting at home after a long hard day, and you’re relaxing by reading the paper, your girlfriend comes up to you “ne ne” (you know how girls do when they want to tell you something), and you look up at her with your same flat expression and an unenthusiastic “mmm?”, she will not be particularly suited. Even if you are tired, make the effort to look at her with a “yes?” and raised eyebrows.

You want to invite her to talk to you, not look at her as a nuisance. When she’s telling you about things, maybe her work or something, often you won’t be very interested. But act as if you are. If it is important to her, make sure you look like it is important to you, because that tells her that she is important to you. Do not continue reading your paper or watching TV or whatever it is you may be doing. Look at her and give her your attention… look like you’re interested in what she has to say… irrelevant of whether you are or not!