Hi there, I’m back again after a short hiatus.  Hope you all made the most of your Valentine’s Day.  To be honest, even though I receive my fair share of chocolates in Japan, I am not a fan of the whole thing.  The idea of booking a romantic evening/dinner on the same night that everyone else is is something I find both daunting, annoying and unfortunately necessary in most cases.  If you are lucky, one day you will find a girl who is content to do something the week after.  But I digress totally.

In previous articles I have mentioned that you should rely on your “foreign-ness” to attract a woman.  However, I think I should be more clear on the point.  While the fact that you aren’t Japanese should not be your only good point,  you should still use it to your advantage.  It is still something that makes you visibly different from most of your competition, so you shouldn’t neglect using it altogether.

This goes beyond just looking foreign as well.  When you are approaching a girl, you should USE ENGLISH.  Yes, you may know all kinds of cool Japanese, but you know who else knows lots of Japanese?  Almost every other guy in Japan.  Using English may seem like an odd thing to do if you already know Japanese, but it immediately catches a girl’s attention.  Keep in mind that girls who are hit on will almost always be hit on in Japanese, and probably by guys with much better Japanese that you.  But they likely don’t get hit on much in English and it will make you all the more memorable.  She might not speak much English, but you should try and see how much you can get out of her.

Using English will not only help you stick out, but it will also help you weed out girls who are, well, jerks.  So I say try it a few times and see how far it gets you!

Until next time!