Hello there everyone, I am back from Hawaii, all tanned and relaxed.  I took a trip to Honolulu with some people from our company and while I ended up having to do more work than I was expected, I managed to have a good time and probably drink my bodyweight in Hawaiian beer.  Honolulu, and especially Waikiki where I visited is especially filled with Japanese people.  In fact, since the Honolulu Marathon was going on at the time, this fact was especially true.  If you are looking for a Japanese girlfriend, it turns out you don’t have to limit yourself to Japan.  In fact, it may be a great place to try out your dating skills, since women there will likely be on vacation and more up for a good time.

Anyway, today’s point is on the idea of being a foreigner in Japan.  I have touched on this topic a little bit in previous articles.  There are a lot of things to think about when it comes to dating a Japanese girl in Japan.  In a way, foreign guys have an advantage.  Being from another country makes you automatically interesting to a lot of girls.  On the other hand, you have think about the kind of woman you will attract.  There is a chance that you can end up being just another accessory – something to show off to her other friends, but not much more.  This may be just what you want – a non-committal, physical relationship that will eventually end when one of you gets bored.  What is more likely, and what has happened to a lot of guys I know – and myself – is that your relationship will end without you realizing what the deal was until after it is over.

Does that mean you should avoid any woman who is interested in you because you are not Japanese?  That wouldn’t be much fun, now would it?  I say if you are able to use your foreign-ness to your advantage, you should go to town.  However, I also thing you need to know what kind of risk you are taking, and until you know a girl likes you for who you are and not where you are from, you should be aware that she might not be the one.

Until next time,

Chris