Dating Tips #5 – Compliments, Compliments, Compliments!
Hello there everyone! Chris back after a week hiatus. It’s been two weeks, so I hope you managed to get out and about. Despite the sometimes absurd amount of work I have to do, I try and get out and about in Yokohama, where I work. There are plenty of good date spots in Yokohama, especially if you like a good beer, which I certainly do. I discovered a new place in Minatomirai which is 1) a great place to take a girl, and 2) a great place to get a good beer. It’s called the World Beer Museum, and it’s in the Landmark Tower Dockyard. It features beer from all over the world (including ever-rare Canadian beer) and has a great atmosphere all around. It’s not cheap, but I can definitely recommend it to anyone dating a good-natured, beer-loving girl.
Anyway, today’s tip is simple, but shouldn’t be lost on anyone looking to date a Japanese girl. In Japan there is a term that translates to “herbivore male”. It refers to any shy, passive male who is afraid to speak up or approach a girl. See, the stereotypical Japanese man is just that, and in addition, is reluctant to show affection or pay compliments to a girl. In fact, I suspect that is why some Japanese women want to date a foreign guy – they want someone affectionate and who will tell them if they look good, or are smart, etc.
So simply do that – if you meet a girl with nice eyes, tell her she has nice eyes. If you think she is sharp, tell her she is sharp. It seems cheesy, I know, but it really does count for something. I will say this – you should be genuine with your compliments. Japanese women aren’t stupid – they know when someone is giving them false praise. In fact, Japanese people regularly use compliments to move a conversation along (surely you’ve been complimented on your Japanese simply for saying hello). But an honest and genuine compliment will help you stick in a girl’s mind.