Dating Tips #4 Listen, and Listen Carefully!
Hi there, it’s Chris again with some more dating tips. Now that Halloween is out of the way, Christmas is in the air. But Japan’s Christmas is definitely not the Christmas you may be used to if you are from the West. No, Christmas in Japan is more about shopping and eating fried chicken (seriously) than exchanging presents and being with your family. In fact, it isn’t even a holiday here. That said, it is a big day for dating couples, so if you have a special someone that you want to take out on a date around the big day, better make a reservation well in advance.
Anyway, here is another big and important tip for trying to date a Japanese woman. As much as you want to tell a Japanese girl your whole life story the first time you meet her, you should probably ease up on self-praise early on. Yes, you make a lot of money, and your car’s engine has more cylinders than the pack of high class cigarettes you smoke, but with any women, and with Japanese women especially, women don’t want a guy who comes off as overly proud or too cocky. Oh, sure you will hear a lot of “sugoi!”s and plenty of “heeeee”s, but a lot of that has to do with Japanese patience, and less to do with how interested a girl is in you.
The fact of the matter is that Japanese women love to talk about themselves! Any woman you meet will probably have some kind of ability or hobby that they want to talk about. But the trick with a lot of Japanese women is that they likely won’t want to just start talking about themselves. It’s up to you to show interest in them and ask questions about them and what they like. Listen attentively and show an active interest and you might just make a good impression on her. And hey, you might just found out how interesting (or boring) she really is.